How I got ‘Preg-ready’

Ours was a planned pregnancy, 3 years post our wedlock when we both were absolutely sure of having a little human of our own. I was 28 and hubby was 29 and we both thought that it was the right time to join the parent’s club.

I, being the more inquisitive of the two, wanted to get every bit of knowledge to prepare my body for the following months, that i knew would consume quite a handful physically and mentally.

Here’s my guide about prepping your bodies for pregnancy and quicker recovering post-partum:

  • The primary+most important agenda on my list was to visit the gynaecologist. An appointment with the doc doesn’t only have to happen if you have troubles conceiving but also before you plan on getting pregnant. This way the gynae can perform a simple blood test and ultrasound to know how your uterus is designed and what’s going on inside your body. Many conditions like PCOD/PCOS, thyroid, hypertension, RH Factor etc in you and your spouse can be ruled out and/or cured so as to make it a healthy pregnancy. You might want to check if you need any live vaccines (like chicken pox) that can’t be given during pregnancy to stay safe.
  • Before getting pregnant i wanted to have a boost of all the vital nutrients and minerals that the body needs to be strong enough to handle a healthy pregnancy by taking a course of multivitamins. I took a 3 month course of the GNC multivitamins but you can refer to your doctor for the same.
  • I was few kilos above my BMI mark which meant that I had to reduce weight to attain the right BMI. This is only done so that conditions like gestational diabetes, hypertension, preeclampsia etc can be avoided. I however, failed to attain my benchmark but lost few kilos which proved great help in bouncing back my weight post pregnancy and not facing any of the above mentioned conditions.
  • Exercise- only a healthy body can give you a healthy baby. Exercise not only to lose weight but to stay fit and regulate your bodily functions. I religiously exercised to make my body strong enough to handle a healthy pregnancy.
  • Try to aim for it at the right age. Yes, there is a right age for getting pregnant and delivering a healthy baby, for both the husband and the wife. It is firmly believed that the fertility levels of humans start declining greatly after the age of 30. Children born to parents past the appropriate age are also more susceptible to conditions related to heart, obesity + mental illnesses. This is not to cause panic in you but to create awareness about weightage of the right time.
  • If you happen to be drinkers +/ smokers you and your spouse must cut down on the alcohol + smoking levels tremendously or conpletely. Heavy drinkers are said to have unhealthy sperms/lesser sperm count. The female’s chances of getting pregnant are also hindered if she drinks too often and in huge quantities.
  • Staying stress-free is the key to getting quicker positive results. If you happen to stress yourself with work or worries chances are that your pregnancy gets delayed. Stay happy and orgasmic, it works great wonders.

Spread on the knowledge to those in need! Let’s help someone join the mommy club in a better way.

❤️

Humidifier – the need of the hour!

Accompanying the lovely, chilly winter breeze, this weather also brought dreadful illnesses that unnecessary tagged along. How from being my favourite season, winters have started to dread me.

The air starts to dry, sucking the moisture from our skins and drying the mucus in our nasal passages. Due to this, we suffer from stuffy/blocked noses. Kids have a harder time with the same because what’s worse is that they can’t even blow the snot out, to relieve themselves. The air needs to moisten to relieve these conditions.

Recently my little one has picked up the airborne flu and before it worsens i have this Chicco Respira Sano humidifier out and running in the room at nights. It has been – tremendous help, stopping the congestion from worsening. It is far more easy to use than the regular steamer that is as unsafe as it is short lived. What’s most amazing is that it has a little space to add your essential oils/diffusers which fume along with the steam for added benefits.

I personally love it for myself too. It stops my skin from getting flaky and the lips from getting chapped. I see visible benefits of using this.

There are many other brands available in the market like honeywell and vicks, but this is what suited me best because it is cost effective, is from a decent brand, and has the facility of using essential oils. Also I love it because it has the auto shut down feature when the water inside the tank is consumed. I totally recommend this humidifier and call it a must use especially if you use a heater in your room.

This humidifier costed me ₹4490 from FirstCry.com.

Has anyone of you used it for your babies? What are your views about it?

Breastfeeding and it’s dilemmas

Breastfeeding is as big a journey as pregnancy.

It was clear in my mind, the moment i gave birth or even before it, that I was going to exclusively breastfeed my baby. Hearing about the tremendous health benefits for not only the baby but also the mom, who wouldn’t want to?!

I was assured that with breastfeeding:

-I was gonna provide outmost nutrition to my little one, which he would never end up getting from any external sources, at least for the first 6 months. Help him gain higher immunity, grow better and make him prone to numerous conditions.

-Transfer him the antibodies that my body was specially designed to make, uniquely for him. Why would I let them go waste?!

-Get myself a special bonding time with him where it was just him and I.

-Simultaneously aid my body against various ailments that breastfeeding work against (cancers, diabetes, hypertension to name few)

-Help myself regulate weight loss (fyi- absolutely zinch for me).

So the journey started the day the baby was born and went on for a good16-17 months. I was satisfied being certain that there is nothing more pure and wholesome I could have given to the baby in these first crucial transforming months of his life.

The benefits, however, came with it’s own set of challenges:

-I couldn’t be away from him for too long (he wasn’t ready to accept the bottle for the longest time so there was no point pumping)

-The trauma of sore breasts

-Weaning off (discussed in a separate post) became the most tedious task of my lifetime since the baby got so used to exclusively breastfeeding.

-Social events became difficult to attend (both with and without him considering the society’s take on breastfeeding in public)

-Post-partum weight loss had to wait because I used to hog on food while feeding.

-Bonding with hubby became sparse

Nevertheless, today, almost 2 years later i realise that this journey has incomparably done more good than harm to each one of us.This post is to encourage all the ladies who are having a tough time with feeding dilemmas, weaning off etc. I’d like to assure you that you are giving the best of what you can and doing complete justice to the little angels you made..

This too shall pass…

❤️

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Can we really keep-up, like the Kardashians!

I was hopelessly gazing inside the closet full of 12 sized clothing, wondering if it would ever go down a size or two. I wished, i could flaunt those toned legs sometime again, at the beaches of Phuket, when little boo came up and clung on to my legs throwing a tantrum for the millionth time in the day.

This time it was to watch “green colour, green colour where are you; here i am, here i am; how do you do”. Not now”, i said in my calmest possible tone. Buaaapaaaaa (ipad), he screamed so loud, i was startled. Realising that he was louder than he should have been, he suddenly gave me a peck on my cheek to pacify my dreadful look.

Picking him up, i had the passing thought that crosses my mind every now and then, how do these celebs manage a lifestyle where they can do everything possible on the planet and still manage to be mummies. Do they bring up their babies as religiously as we do?! Do they wipe baby bums with their perfectly manicured hands?! Do they ever run after their kids for getting them to finish their meals?! Even if they have help to perform these duties, can anyone else do for the baby, what the mothers can do?!

Sitting back I later realise we can all keep up like the Kardashians (not literally), just in our own simple ways. What is your chapter one could be someone else’s chapter 20.

The most trivial act that we could do is to try and keep our state of mind and bodies go hand in hand. Make it a point to give just half and hour at least, each day, to spend time with ourselves/meditate and another half an hour to groom ourselves; you could work-out for this half an hour, get yourself a manicure, scrub your face and use a face pack, get your things done (wax, shave etc), do yoga, get yourself a nice head massage/body massage. We give outmost love to our families. Can we just devote one hour a day towards loving ourselves equally if not more?

Join me in doing so and increase self worth and self love. Way to go mommies!

~How the little man made the grand entrance~

Hubby and i came back from what looked like the final check up before the baby’s grand entrance. Doc observed the baby’s heart beat for a while to make sure all was well and sent us back home, telling us to keep proper track of the baby’s movements since his umbilical cord was twirled around his neck.

The baby’s head and abdominal circumference had become too big and it was ready to come out anytime. We were now just waiting for the alarm, with our hospital bags packed with all gender-neutral baby stuff in it.

I went home and napped for a while. Later i woke up and had dinner, chatted with the family, took my meds and watched tv/ read books to prepare myself for the big day. Suddenly i realised, i hadn’t felt the baby in somewhere close to 6 hours. Hubby didn’t think for a minute before telling me to rush to the hospital. It was 2 am but we didn’t wanna take any chances. The gynae on duty analysed the baby’s heartbeat and told me it was best for me to stay under observation. Thankfully, the baby was fine; he probably just ran out of space to wiggle around my tummy or wanted to cause drama because he now needed to enter the bigger world.

Hubby and i stayed there that night. The next morning, docs decided to induce me artificially for birthing, which despite of reading so much about pregnancy over the internet, i had no idea about. Anyway, the gynae inserted a pill in my body and that was it.We now just had to wait for the pains to begin.Woohoo! In few hours the baby will be out and we will all leave this crazy hospital like a happy family, OR NOT. It was next morning and we were still just waiting. The baby was causing more drama than ever. I was induced again (intravenous) which caused slight pains to begin, nothing major.

The now fed-up gynae planned to burst my water bag! Wait, what?! And how do you aim on doing that?! For what reason?! The baby is just taking it’s time. We all need time for the major decisions in life. After all he had this huge family to meet and greet. Couldn’t the baby stay there until he wanted to?! Oh great, so you would insert this huge pair of scissors and cut my water bag, that is how it happens?!?!?! Really?! Wow! Did i miss reading some articles? I guess so.

After much reluctance the doc did what she had to do. I died a little on seeing the size of those scissors. Was i crazy to opt for a normal delivery in this modern, high tech world, it was too late to think about it now.

And the next few hours was just a series of listening to Puuussshhhhh PUSSHHHHHHHH…. and me screaming and killing my husband just about 10,000 times in my mind, for getting me in this position (it was both our decision but he got no more than 5 percent the role).

Finally, Jan 30, 16:31- my little man made his grand entry. If there is one feeling that will go on with me till i die, it will be that moment. Did my mom also do this for getting me into this world? Why did I never consider this before? It was the most beautiful little guy I had ever seen. Like a little bud of rose🌹. Blush pink and crazy like me, screaming on top of his lungs without taking break. The paediatrician in the room put him on my chest and he stopped to cry. I still getting butterflies thinking about that moment. How someone who enters your life at such a later stage simply claims every wonderful feeling you ever had to itself. Did someone say all good things come in small packages? Yes, they do!

It was not until i touched him, i knew what heaven could feel like.

❤️

C-Section- Still a taboo?

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Clearly there is a 50% chance of having either the normal birth or the C-section. What is beyond my understanding is, why does the society judge mothers each day on choosing the latter.

The moment i gave birth to my little one, even before wanting to know about the health of the mom and the baby, i heard “Normal or C-Section?” and as soon as they learnt I delivered normally they come up with some more opinions “that’s the best; you’re the perfect mom; these days girls wanna go the easy way“. I think my blood boiled a little thinking would i be any less a mom had i undergone the otherwise. I wasn’t in the mood for sarcasm at that point but the statement still bothers me. Why cant’t a mother choose the easy (at least considered) way. I just continued to gorge on the slice of pizza i was having after the crazy labour hours.

In one of my upcoming posts I’m going to describe how i managed the normal delivery (w/o taking the epidural) which i hope is some help for moms who like to go the natural way.

Anyway, i totally think giving birth is the most naturally beautiful thing a woman can do and how she wants to do depends totally on her decision and/or her medical condition. I do also favoured the normal birth procedure for myself as it has it’s own set of pros that aid the baby health and makes post-partum recovery so much easier but no one has the right to judge the decision a mother makes for herself and for her baby.

Your baby your style!

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