Kid Essentials – Graco pushcart review

I, like most moms, cannot imagine bringing up my little one without a push-cart. When he was born we purchased this @graco push-chair for him. Initially we used to use an attachment on top of it which was multi-utility (carry cot+infant car seat). We preferred to buy the graco push cart because:

a) It is extremely sturdy. Even if I hang shopping bags+diaper bags at once, it doesn’t lose its balance

b) it comes with a wonderful multi utility attachment that is ideal for infants because it is attached on the top of this chair and the baby is facing whoever is strolling. Also, the attachment can be used as a rocking baby carry cot and a detachable car seat, which is extremely convenient.

c) It is very spacious and has ample room for keeping and hanging multiple bags at once. .

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Drawbacks-

a) It is not light weight like strollers so you might want to think if you need to use this while travelling.

b) I didn’t find the baby locking system very easy to use. It takes some juggling between the multiple belts provided but I don’t mind it because how safe it keeps the baby.

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Highly recommended to anyone who is looking forward to buy a multipurpose and sturdy push cart.

Weaning – naturally or compelled

First of all, any mom who needs to read about the tactics to wean successfully, must put her calming pants on.

I’m a relaxed mommy now. I can go wherever I want to without the fear of a baby crying off inconsolably back home and without the worry that he would be crying because of hunger, unlike a year ago, when the only thing on my mind was to wean off my baby.

I was clear about feeding the baby with bm for the first six-eight months and then switch to fm while starting semi-solids simultaneously. The plan that only ended in a faux pas. Weaning him from bm to bottle was by far the most difficult challenge I have experienced in bringing up a baby.

Little had I known, that bm would become his means of satisfying hunger, thirst, pain relief, soothing himself emotionally and whatever not. He was doing anything but giving up on it. The moment I used to put the bottle in his mouth, he pushed it out with his tongue. I knew it was going to take time but how much?! I tried Avent, Tommee Tippee, Dr, Browns, Chicco and whichever other bottle he would be willing to accept. I had to go shopping, to the gym, to meet friends, attend parties and I absolutely couldn’t go anywhere without him.

By the end of year one, I tried to stay up all night, to discontinue feeding to pacify or to help him fall back to sleep. He used to be up with me, until I decided to give up and end up giving him bm. He was absolutely stubborn. I tried all means, not only because I started to feel bound but also because I was afraid this wasn’t ending anytime soon.

After much try, I had actually given up on it. It was clear to me that he wasn’t weaning off anytime soon and was becoming more clingy every time I pushed it too hard. So, I decided for him to take the lead and go slow, quitting one feeding session at a time.

Eventually when he learned to walk at 14 months, he was more interested in staying on the floor than in my arms. Running around the house made him more independent and less clingy towards mom. He could be easily distracted with his favourite toys for hours by then and missing out on feeding sessions became easier.

The day time feeds started to lessen because he started getting fuller with his meals. Every time he asked for milk, I gave him a cookie or some fruit to take his mind off the cravings. Now, since he got detached from bm, I tried giving him the bottle, which he reluctantly accepted after few tries, only because it had started to amuse him now. Finally, after months of efforts, at 15 months he accepted the bottle.

I would like to console all moms trying to wean their babies, some of my closest friends who I see struggling each day, patiently trying all means. All I have to say is that it is not easy, for you or for the baby, but you must keep trying. Weaning doesn’t happen over days but over months but if you don’t try it becomes a habit and gets more difficult to give up.

The kind of mom..

I clearly remember how I:

gave up on all luxuries,

used to be in track pants the entire day,

didn’t shampoo my hair 3 days in a row,

always put off my threading and waxing schedules,

ignored my stressed out skin,

avoided wearing any jewellery,

stopped using makeup even during outings,

skipped buying stuff for myself,

deliberately ignored my friends,

but…

I do all of that now, I get time for it without having to compromise on the baby. I love myself a lot more than before for being able to live my life the way I always wanted to even after having a baby. I never wanted to give up on life but the post-partum period doesn’t come easy. Depressions of being sleepless, not looking our best, not being the perfect mom, zoned me out completely.

2 years later, I’m so glad I overcame that lifestyle. I’m a happier person and most importantly, I’m the mom I always wished to be.

Advice for newborn/expecting moms, I wish someone had given me

I hope you’re having a great day.

In my post today, first and foremost, I’d like to say that you all are super-women, performing the toughest & most amazing role the human body is capable of performing. You’re absolutely wonderful because you didn’t give priority to your bodies, careers or whatever not, for these few months or even years, during which you would take rebirth too but would still concentrate on selflessly providing all that you have, to your baby and its upbringing. Whoever said it’s going to be easy, is absolutely crazy or lying.

Now alongside, I’d like to give you all a reality check. Birthing, in itself is a bittersweet experience. On one hand, you would feel like you’re on your death bed ( we all have known how much pain a mother goes through while she is in labor) and on the other, nothing would have ever given you more joy in life, so much that since the time the moment the baby comes out, there is nothing more important for you anymore.

However, like they say, birthing is easy but there is no epidural for motherhood. My main aim of writing this is because before I had a baby, my family had painted a rosy picture for me. Where I would beautifully get pregnant 🤰, give birth and hand over the baby to the grandmothers to look after and wipe its bum and again be happily ever after with the hubby, go on solo trips and nights-out, just like before. I have forever been told (like in stereotypical indian families) that the grand-moms will handle everything. Not that I completely fell for it but well I was somewhere in the middle of believing and not believing it. A family is great support but bringing up a child is a mammoth task mainly the mother has to perform.

However, I’d not paint the same picture for you guys but a true-er version of it.No one, but you will have to handle the baby. Neither will you want to trust anyone completely in doing so.

  1. No one but you will have to wipe off the shit off the baby bum. No matter how much you try to run from it, eventually you’ll be the only one doing it. Accept the fact early.
  2. The hubby can only to an extent support you. If he has to commence working he needs his night’s sleep. That would just leave the two of you (you and your baby). No one will give up on their sleep schedules. You will have to work out how you manage to sneak in your naps by coordinating it with the baby’s.
  3. The baby will not sleep at nights or whenever you want them to sleep for the first few days. You have to show patience. You have to learn to survive on minimal sleeping hours. The baby is going to wake up/ make weird sounds, the moment you sleep for a minute. The baby will demand a nappy change and feed every 2 hrs even at nights. They need approximately 2 months, to adjust their biological clock according to the world’s.
  4. You would have to manage the baby despite of your sickness, stitches, ill-feeling, fatigue and whatever not. You must eat well and healthy to gather energy for doing so.
  5. People will be less understanding of your situation owing to the fact that the whole world is having babies and you’re not the only one, however; to you it would feel like you’re the most extraordinary human who has given birth to and is raising a baby. You do not want to explain your situation to the world. Conserve that energy to manage the baby.
  6. You might get into post-partum depression. It is common. I have gone through it. It is usually about how strongly you come out of it. Try to deliberately avoid the negative feeling. Use a poster in your room or anything else that reminds you to stay positive and calm and most of all to have patience as this too shall pass.
  7. At one point, you would hate everyone over the most petty issues. I hated my hubby for going out for lunch with his friends when I couldn’t 🤔.
  8. Do not have any expectations from anyone. If you’re having a baby thinking you’re going to hire a doula or because your hubby is super supportive, believe me you, no one can be the mother to a child. No matter what. The more you expect someone to help you the more you will get depressed about them not living upto your expectations. You obviously need help, ask for it but don’t expect someone to read your mind.
  9. You will keep getting criticised for why you’re not losing your pregnancy weight or how wrongly you’re handling your child from unnecessary and insensible people. You have to choose how you have to deal with those individuals and your body. Remember, you’re the boss. You’re the one in charge of yourself and your baby.
  10. You will keep getting forced advice from people who had a baby in 1937 and don’t remember a thing about bringing up a baby except from the old wives tales. You have to filter whom to listen to and what.
  11. You might not get so much “me-time” initially. It will obviously get better with time and you will be able to get back to your routine. Keep your aims and determination strong. Gradually start sneaking in time for yourself.

In the end I’d like to mention that everything will get sorted in a few months. You will become a pro with the baby. There will be nothing you will cherish more than the moments you spend with your baby. There would be no one who has ever loved you or whom you have ever loved more than the tiny human you made. There will come a point where you would even want to relive this stage. That’s how life evolves.Stay wonderful ladies.Xximage source: http://www.30seconds.com

Stress on Me-Time, mommies

 

Totally crushing over Kiko Milano these days.

There is absolutely no time to get to the salon today and my hands and feet need a desperate makeover.

Guess I’ll have to be doing my own little mani+pedi 💅 to look decent today. I’m definitely not a procrastinator.

For days like these, I have the Kilo Milano Hand and Feet scrub and creams set along with it’s nail paint fixer.

This set is close to my heart since it was gifted to me by my mom in law on daughter’s day.

I think it is such a cute and thoughtful present for a mom of a toddler boy. I guess she does realise I don’t visit the salon as much as I used to, when I wasn’t a mom.

 

I hope my little munchkin continues to nap through this much needed process though!!

SEBA MED Diaper Rash Cream Review + How to deal with diaper rashes

Diaper rash can be quite a challenging situation for the baby as well as for the mother. The mere sight of the rash is so disturbing that it can cause panic in new mommies.

However, it has to be dealt with, with patience and the best ways to avoid and heal a diaper rash are:

  • Use SEBAMED DIAPER RASH CREAM first thing after wiping of the area with wet cotton if your baby has developed a rash. The cream is very mild yet has a wonderfully speedy healing process. I usually have had to use it only 2-3 times in case of a severe rash for it to heal. It also has the ideal pH (5.5) to avoid sensitive skin reactions.
  • Whenever you change a baby’s soiled diaper, always wipe and give 5-20 mins (as much as possible) diaper free time. This way the skin dries off completely and the skin in the diaper area gets to breathe.
  • Try not to leave the baby in soiled diaper for too long. New borns should get a nappy change every 2-3 hours.
  • Potty train the baby at an early stage. The baby should at least be able to tell when he has pooped. This way you won’t have the chance to not find out for too long causing bacterial reaction. Always keep checking for soiled diapers. Change more often if there is a rash.
  • Do not use powder every time you change. Some mothers tend to use powder too much. This dries and irritates the sensitive skin in the diaper area.
  • Use coconut oil or vaseline diaper rash gel during most diaper changes. This makes a barrier b/w the skin and the diaper and avoids bacterial contact with the skin.

What to pack for the baby’s first trip

I was so excited, I thought I’d flip. We were gonna travel as a family, for the first time. At the same time it felt like I’d never been more forgetful. I had nightmares about missing out on something so crucial. It had to be the perfect trip since it was also papa and mama bear’s first relaxing vacay since the birth of baby bear.

I immediately went on the baby center website and thanks to it i got the most elaborate checklist for my perfect holiday.

Here is the checklist I followed, after omission of few things that i thought were unnecessarily on the list. One has to pack sensibly and cannot take the entire house along just to be overly precautionary also in most places we would plan to travel with a baby, we would easily find the necessities just in case.

Packing Checklist

• Diapers

8 in the diaper bag and 1 sealed bag of pampers 80 pieces (easiest to carry that way)

• Pad to put under your baby during diaper changes

You can buy disposable changing pads at supermarkets or reusable ones.

• Blankets

Bring a few — you’ll use them to lay your baby on, cover your baby, cover yourself if you’re nursing, protect your clothes from messy burps, shade your baby, and more

• Plastic bags

Carry a variety of sizes for storing soiled diapers, clothes, and blankets.

•Diaper rash cream

• Wipes

Carry 2 packets they come in super handy in wiping off spit-ups, sticky hands, makeup, stains etc apart from the baby bums

• Small bottles of disinfecting hand gel, baby wash, and baby lotion

• Tissues

• Extra pacifiers (if your baby uses one)

• A few of your baby’s favorite toys

Keep multiple small ones instead of 1-2 big ones. Babies tend to get bored quickly.

• Clothes, socks, and booties or shoes

Two outfits per day + one night suit is a good guideline

• Washable bibs

• Sun hat

• Lightweight plastic feeding set with utensils, and baby food

If your baby’s eating solids

• Formula, water, and juice if appropriate

• Extra bottles, nipples, and sippy cups if appropriate

• Energy-boosting snacks for you to munch on

•Breast pump (if you use one)

• First-aid kit

Baby pain reliever, teether, nasal drops, and supplies for treating minor injuries

• Baby carrier

Lightweight, hands-free way to keep your baby close in crowded places like airports.

• Car seat for safer travel by car or plane

• Collapsible stroller

• Can be gate-checked or stored in the overhead bin of an airplane.

5 survival tips for road trips with your babies.

Tips

• Start preparing to pack a few days before you travel. Keep a running list of things to take, or put items out on a table or dresser as you think of them.

• Use a diaper bag with a waterproof lining and a shoulder strap.

• Be prepared for leaky diapers and baby spit-up on the airplane: Tuck an extra outfit or two for your baby – and an extra shirt for you – into your carry-on bag.

• Prevent leaks by packing medicines and toiletries in resealable plastic bags.

• Pack each of your baby’s outfits in its own zipped plastic bag so you don’t have to hunt around for tiny socks, shirts, and so on.

• Take a clip-on reading light so you can read without disturbing your baby.

• Take the phone number for your baby’s healthcare provider in case you have questions while you’re on the road.

This list worked great for me but you can always add or remove items according to your baby’s needs.

Have a fun trip.