Clarins Lotus face treatment oil

Not very often, do I come across skincare products that suit me right in every possible way.

▶️Clarins Lotus Face Treatment Oil is one such product.

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🆗I have never had the most perfect or ‘flawless’ skin ever, always been oily+acne prone and extremely sensitive.

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▶️Post having a baby, it worsened, may be because of sleep deprivation. In search of a brand new, post-baby, night care regimen, I came across this face treatment oil. The guy gave me a little sample which I reluctantly accepted (because oil on my skin ), upon his advice and because it specifically read-for oily or combination skin. I used it as suggested, 2-3 drops rubbed on the palms and placed on the face without extreme massaging.

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▶️It smelled great, I didn’t get any break outs so it was worth a try. I got this bottle and I haven’t regretted at all. Continuous use has made my skin more even toned, definitely. It makes the skin supple and hydrated and helps get rid of dark spots.

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▶️Costed me 3300₹ for this 30 ml glass bottle (very delicate to handle) which I believe is reasonable considering this goes a long way.

Weaning – naturally or compelled

First of all, any mom who needs to read about the tactics to wean successfully, must put her calming pants on.

I’m a relaxed mommy now. I can go wherever I want to without the fear of a baby crying off inconsolably back home and without the worry that he would be crying because of hunger, unlike a year ago, when the only thing on my mind was to wean off my baby.

I was clear about feeding the baby with bm for the first six-eight months and then switch to fm while starting semi-solids simultaneously. The plan that only ended in a faux pas. Weaning him from bm to bottle was by far the most difficult challenge I have experienced in bringing up a baby.

Little had I known, that bm would become his means of satisfying hunger, thirst, pain relief, soothing himself emotionally and whatever not. He was doing anything but giving up on it. The moment I used to put the bottle in his mouth, he pushed it out with his tongue. I knew it was going to take time but how much?! I tried Avent, Tommee Tippee, Dr, Browns, Chicco and whichever other bottle he would be willing to accept. I had to go shopping, to the gym, to meet friends, attend parties and I absolutely couldn’t go anywhere without him.

By the end of year one, I tried to stay up all night, to discontinue feeding to pacify or to help him fall back to sleep. He used to be up with me, until I decided to give up and end up giving him bm. He was absolutely stubborn. I tried all means, not only because I started to feel bound but also because I was afraid this wasn’t ending anytime soon.

After much try, I had actually given up on it. It was clear to me that he wasn’t weaning off anytime soon and was becoming more clingy every time I pushed it too hard. So, I decided for him to take the lead and go slow, quitting one feeding session at a time.

Eventually when he learned to walk at 14 months, he was more interested in staying on the floor than in my arms. Running around the house made him more independent and less clingy towards mom. He could be easily distracted with his favourite toys for hours by then and missing out on feeding sessions became easier.

The day time feeds started to lessen because he started getting fuller with his meals. Every time he asked for milk, I gave him a cookie or some fruit to take his mind off the cravings. Now, since he got detached from bm, I tried giving him the bottle, which he reluctantly accepted after few tries, only because it had started to amuse him now. Finally, after months of efforts, at 15 months he accepted the bottle.

I would like to console all moms trying to wean their babies, some of my closest friends who I see struggling each day, patiently trying all means. All I have to say is that it is not easy, for you or for the baby, but you must keep trying. Weaning doesn’t happen over days but over months but if you don’t try it becomes a habit and gets more difficult to give up.

The erroneous parenting

A happy and positive childhood is the foundation of a successful future and a balanced life.

I can’t think of a single parent who would deliberately like to ruin their child’s personality or self esteem. Parenting, however, is a very demanding job, where we have our up and down times but still have to manage upbringing our children by putting our best foot forward.

Sometimes, we do not realise how or what we say something, that could harm or put and end to to our child’s positive demeanour.

Here, I have a list of actions that I consider to be hugely erroneous in terms of parenting-

1. Never must any parent make any comparisons with other children or persons in any manner. I have been an educator and learnt the negative effect this causes in children in turn making them frustrated and less contented, sometimes upto a much later stage in life. We must understand that each child is different and has distinct qualities and it is our job to work towards bringing out the best in our child.

2. Often, parents try to force upon the aspirations they had for themselves onto their children. We should respect the individuality of a child and polish it with our best efforts by encouraging the child to follow their own dreams rather than our unfulfilled ones.

3. Many times, parents say the right thing to the child but do so in public rather than in private. Children need to be guided about the right way to lead their lives but they also get humiliated if you do it in front of others. We must make sure that our relationship with the child is our private affair and our problems must be solved amongst ourselves rather than displaying them in public. This way they build trust in us and easily share their problems.

4. It is and will always be a universal fact that your children needs your time more than they needs anything else in the world. The time we must give our children should never take a backseat because of work, socialising or anything else, per se. We must prioritise that the shaping our children’s life is of outmost importance and everything else can be adjusted accordingly.

5. We should learn to trust our child. Even if we find out that they are being unfaithful, we must understand why they required to do so. We must never haphazardly jump to conclusions and try to build a rapport where the child feels comfortable in sharing their secrets/ problems with us. The only way to do so is to have open talks with the children by discussing each other’s problems and finding solutions to them together.

6. Demeaning what holds importance to a child can prove to be very hurtful and aggression causing. For example, sometimes a toy holds emotional value to a child but you might find it immature or a hobby which is very important for them but you might find it worthless. This leads to rowdy behaviour of the child. It causes a violent nature and lack of the ability to understand others in future. Always value your child’s emotional values and never belittle what is important for them.

7. Try least to argue/fight with the spouse or other family members in front of children. Kids lack the ability to judge the severity of a situation and this can cause the feeling of desolation or depression amongst children.

We love our children with all that we have and we must take all measures to make their childhood a joyous experience.

Afternoons done right

Sneaking in some ‘me-time’ while the baby is napping and I have no errands to run, somehow.

There is no time I spend like the one where I read. Books are the most amazing company one can have but I have been spending less time with them ever since I became a mother. A new year resolution I made in 2018 is to read as much as I can. I think I’m definitely making that possible with the kid starting pre-school in few months. I aim to inculcate the habit of reading into him and that’s one of the best contributions I have, to offer him, as a mother.

Aromatherapy all the way

These ‘Khadi Natural Aromatherapy and Diffuser Oils’ are the perfect way for me to call one exhausting Monday, a day.

Today was one of those days that consume you physically and mentally.

Hubby has been ill for the past two days and today the little one caught the flu virus because he couldn’t stop kissing the sick daddy all this while.

For me aromas and fragrances are so crucial and how these oils soothe my reflexes is as good as getting a spa for the mind. I add 2-3 drops of these essential oils to my diffuser and it creates the most relaxing environment.

Also, tea tree oil and eucalyptus oil have amazing health benefits apart form their incense. They help aid proper breathing, treat insomnia, give pain relief and help keep insects at bay.

*These magic oils are amazingly beneficial for the kids too*

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The kind of mom..

I clearly remember how I:

gave up on all luxuries,

used to be in track pants the entire day,

didn’t shampoo my hair 3 days in a row,

always put off my threading and waxing schedules,

ignored my stressed out skin,

avoided wearing any jewellery,

stopped using makeup even during outings,

skipped buying stuff for myself,

deliberately ignored my friends,

but…

I do all of that now, I get time for it without having to compromise on the baby. I love myself a lot more than before for being able to live my life the way I always wanted to even after having a baby. I never wanted to give up on life but the post-partum period doesn’t come easy. Depressions of being sleepless, not looking our best, not being the perfect mom, zoned me out completely.

2 years later, I’m so glad I overcame that lifestyle. I’m a happier person and most importantly, I’m the mom I always wished to be.