INQUISITION

At 2.5 years, I’d like to call this guy a “QUESTION BANK”.

From the moment he opens his eyes till he falls asleep, the ratio of his speech is 10questions:1statement. Our entire family and I get tired answering his consistent questions, that he persists on getting the answers to, but he still has more.

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One reason why toddlers ask so many questions and why they keep repeating the same question over and over again – is to build the answer in their memories. To find assurance in the answer is another reason they keep asking for the same reply over and over again. They are building their vocabulary, grasping new words and feeding them into their memories all at the same time while they seek answers from us. Which is why it takes so many times for them to comprehend from a single statement.

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There is so much that this budding brain needs to register in his tiny mind in this endless world of learning. It’s nice to see him getting inquisitive but at times it also gets to my head when I’m being asked a gazillion questions each day. I love his prying eyes and most of the times I can guess what question is gonna be shot at me next.

The earth has music, for those who listen

A very essential part of our daily schedule is being in green surroundings. My mini is one wild child and can not call it day without being at the parks at least once per day.

Why it is essential to take kids to the natural surroundings more than indoor play areas?

Primarily, because there is so much to learn and gain from nature. Kids improve and build their fine motor skills, observations, creativity, imaginative thinking, problem solving so much better when they are left to play in natural surroundings. No books/ educational toys can ever teach a child what a hands-on experience with nature can.

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Although we are not morning people at all, we have switched to visit the gardens early morning instead of/including the evenings because we feel that the early morning sun and fresh air do so much to improvise us.

Kid Essentials – Graco pushcart review

I, like most moms, cannot imagine bringing up my little one without a push-cart. When he was born we purchased this @graco push-chair for him. Initially we used to use an attachment on top of it which was multi-utility (carry cot+infant car seat). We preferred to buy the graco push cart because:

a) It is extremely sturdy. Even if I hang shopping bags+diaper bags at once, it doesn’t lose its balance

b) it comes with a wonderful multi utility attachment that is ideal for infants because it is attached on the top of this chair and the baby is facing whoever is strolling. Also, the attachment can be used as a rocking baby carry cot and a detachable car seat, which is extremely convenient.

c) It is very spacious and has ample room for keeping and hanging multiple bags at once. .

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Drawbacks-

a) It is not light weight like strollers so you might want to think if you need to use this while travelling.

b) I didn’t find the baby locking system very easy to use. It takes some juggling between the multiple belts provided but I don’t mind it because how safe it keeps the baby.

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Highly recommended to anyone who is looking forward to buy a multipurpose and sturdy push cart.

❌Drinking to sleep 🍼 ❌

Today’s post is about ‘WHY MUSTN’T YOU LET YOUR BABY SLEEP WHILE FEEDING FROM THE BOTTLE’.

It is a major concern yet a highly ignored aspect of bringing up our babies. To be honest, initially, even I was unaware of this but after reading many baby related books and articles I realised the value of it.

I don’t want to freak you out, but drinking milk while sleeping, can cause a baby to choke, which I believe is strong enough reason, to be convinced for not doing so. Apart from that, it causes major tooth decay, usually brought into consideration when the child is 4-5 years of age. Still, there is more, drinking milk while sleeping can cause the milk to enter the eustachian tube, causing severe ear infections, which sadly, kids this age are unable to express.

Now first and foremost, I know how difficult it is to put a baby to sleep. I have a 2 year old and it literally takes me an hour to make him doze off after bringing him to bed. LO was exclusively BF until he was 6 mo. He also woke up multiple times a night to feed, which is alright, like most kids.

Now, after the child starts semi-solids, (also starts erupting teeth) he tends to get fuller+wakes up lesser during the nights and the same happened with my LO. So, the moment I found about the ill-effects of making him doze off while sucking from the bottle, I decided that I wouldn’t start with this habit in the first place.

I used to feed him his dinner and two hours post that, his night time milk bottle was given to him, usually, just at the moment he started to feel sleepy. I made sure that he was still awake during this, with lights in the room on.

Now the major concern was, how to put him to sleep. We tried using musical night lamps, singing poems, rocking him, taking him for drives (where he dozes off while seeing the outside world and forgets about milk), pacifying him with water and many such activities to keep him occupied, when he decided to accept the fact that he would have to sleep, without drinking milk from the bottle. It took him about 15 days, at the most, to make this a routine and ever since, he has never needed a bottle of milk to sleep.

One good habit takes a while and a whole lot of effort and patience, to be inculcated in a child, but in the longer run, it’s benefits are worth a lot more.

The erroneous parenting

A happy and positive childhood is the foundation of a successful future and a balanced life.

I can’t think of a single parent who would deliberately like to ruin their child’s personality or self esteem. Parenting, however, is a very demanding job, where we have our up and down times but still have to manage upbringing our children by putting our best foot forward.

Sometimes, we do not realise how or what we say something, that could harm or put and end to to our child’s positive demeanour.

Here, I have a list of actions that I consider to be hugely erroneous in terms of parenting-

1. Never must any parent make any comparisons with other children or persons in any manner. I have been an educator and learnt the negative effect this causes in children in turn making them frustrated and less contented, sometimes upto a much later stage in life. We must understand that each child is different and has distinct qualities and it is our job to work towards bringing out the best in our child.

2. Often, parents try to force upon the aspirations they had for themselves onto their children. We should respect the individuality of a child and polish it with our best efforts by encouraging the child to follow their own dreams rather than our unfulfilled ones.

3. Many times, parents say the right thing to the child but do so in public rather than in private. Children need to be guided about the right way to lead their lives but they also get humiliated if you do it in front of others. We must make sure that our relationship with the child is our private affair and our problems must be solved amongst ourselves rather than displaying them in public. This way they build trust in us and easily share their problems.

4. It is and will always be a universal fact that your children needs your time more than they needs anything else in the world. The time we must give our children should never take a backseat because of work, socialising or anything else, per se. We must prioritise that the shaping our children’s life is of outmost importance and everything else can be adjusted accordingly.

5. We should learn to trust our child. Even if we find out that they are being unfaithful, we must understand why they required to do so. We must never haphazardly jump to conclusions and try to build a rapport where the child feels comfortable in sharing their secrets/ problems with us. The only way to do so is to have open talks with the children by discussing each other’s problems and finding solutions to them together.

6. Demeaning what holds importance to a child can prove to be very hurtful and aggression causing. For example, sometimes a toy holds emotional value to a child but you might find it immature or a hobby which is very important for them but you might find it worthless. This leads to rowdy behaviour of the child. It causes a violent nature and lack of the ability to understand others in future. Always value your child’s emotional values and never belittle what is important for them.

7. Try least to argue/fight with the spouse or other family members in front of children. Kids lack the ability to judge the severity of a situation and this can cause the feeling of desolation or depression amongst children.

We love our children with all that we have and we must take all measures to make their childhood a joyous experience.